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Setting boundaries is important that is why I want to share with how to set boundaries for yourself and others so that people will know what your limits are.
Setting boundaries can be very empowering especially if you want to be both physically and emotionally healthy, when you recognize to set and enforce limits, you are protecting your self esteem and maintaining your self respect and also you get to enjoy health relationships.
When you don’t set boundaries you leave room for emotional pain, dependency, depression, anxiety and stress, lack of having no boundaries is like opening the door of your home open for anyone to just walk even unwanted guest, you don’t want to set a rigid boundaries which can cause isolation, no one can come, no one can go out.
What Are Boundaries
Let’s talk about what are boundaries. Boundaries are like guidelines. they are rules and regulations or limits that a person has set in place for themselves which are reasonable, safe and permissible way for other people to interact with them.
Why Is It Important To Set Boundaries
- It is important to communicate your needs to people
- For you to be able to have positive interactions
- For you to be able to practice self care and self respect
- To be able to set limit in a relationship in a healthy way
How To Set Boundaries
Now let me share with you tips on how to set boundaries for yourself or even at work.
Name/Know Your Limit: The number one tip on how to set boundaries is to name and know your limits, this is important if you don’t know your limits, how do you expect others to respect it. You need to consider what you can tolerate and accept and also what makes you feel uncomfortable and stressed.
Tune Into Your Feelings: You need to learn how to tune into your feelings, learn what makes you thick, how you feel from time to time, for this you can keep a journal so that you can monitor emotions.
Be Direct: There are some people that you will need to have a direct approach with them, these type of people don’t usually respect people’s boundaries no matter how subtly you tell them, they still won’t get until you use a direct approach for them and even then they still will not listen but you need to be firm about it.
Give Yourself Permission: There are three things that make people not set healthy boundaries and they are, fear, self doubt and guilt, these factors are the reason why people don’t set boundaries, they fear what people’s reaction will be if they set and enforce boundaries. some also feel guilt when they speak up to family and friends and say no to them. You need to know that if you don’t set boundaries, people will take advantage of you. So give yourself permission set healthy boundaries for yourself.
Self Care Has To Be A Priority: Half way on the list of how to set boundaries, you need to make sure that practicing self care is a priority when you set your boundaries. This means you need to put yourself first in everything, self care brings you nothing but peace of mind and it will give you a positive outlook towards life, it will also strength to enforce your boundaries.
Check out my post on: How to overcome self doubt
Be Assertive: Another tip on how to set boundaries is to be assertive, it is not enough that you have to create boundaries, you have to follow through with them. You need to start letting people know that you have boundaries, let them know when they have hurt you or when they should stop being rude to you, if they decide to work with you to know more about your boundaries good, if they will keep disrespecting then you need to cut them out of your life.
Start Small: Like everything that you start, you need to take small steps, you don’t just go diving into it, take little steps. Start by setting small boundary which is not a threat to you and then as times goes on you can increase it to more challenging boundaries.
Let People Know About The Consequences: The second tip the last tip on how to set boundaries is to think about the consequences, let them what will happen if they don’t respect your boundaries.
Practice Often: The last tip on how to set boundaries is to practice often, I always say this when you do something often it becomes a part of you, it becomes a routine, so when you set boundaries often and let people know about it then it will become a habit for you.
That is all the tips I have for you on how to set boundaries, i hope these tips helps you.