11 Reasons Why You Are Still Single

Reasons Why You Are Still Single
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So lately you have noticed that most of your friends have already gotten married or are in a relationship and you wonder the reasons why you are still single.

While some people might prefer to be single, if you are that kind of a person then this blog post is not for you but if you are the type of person that is wondering why you are still single then this blog post is for you.

There are some bad habits that single people fall and if you are guilty of one or two of them recognizing it and facing it head on may be key to opening up doors to longer lasting, quality relationship.

1. Quick to judge

If you are the type of person that is quick to judge people then trust me you will remain single for a long time, people always say never judge a book by it’s cover, why? Well you won’t get anywhere if you judge a person by d way they walk or talk or act without talking to them or meeting them, I always tell people don’t make assumptions and don’t be judgmental about things or people it won’t get you anywhere.

2. Still obsessed with your ex

If you are the type that keeps comparing every person you meet on a date with your ex then trust me you won’t find a relationship, I mean your ex is your ex for a reason they are in your past no need to compare everyone you meet to them and am probably sure your ex has moved on, so you need to move on to and if you can here is the link to my other post on how to move on from a broken heart but if you know you have moved on then stop comparing people with your ex.

3. You give up to easily

Don’t give up easily just because all your past relationships didn’t work out and for that reason you are going to give up? No it doesn’t work that way, you need to keep trying, you need to keep fighting and you need to believe that your soulmate is out there waiting for you but if you give up easily trust me you will not find your soulmate

4. Always Busy

Whenever you are asked out for a date, your reply will be you are busy and you are so busy you don’t have a social life. If you keep going on like this you will remain single forever, you need stop being busy all the time and just go out and have fun

5. Too independent

You don’t want want to depend on someone else, you believe that if you do it’s a sign of weakness right? Well, you are wrong, it is not every time you will be able to shoulder all your responsibilities, I mean there will come a day you will need a shoulder to cry on and if you remain single trust me it will get be worst. So stop being independent for all the time and learn how to depend on other people.

6. You are not comfortable in your own skin

Self-confidence has always been an issue in our society (it still is), I can attest to that for years I was never comfortable with my skin with who I am but when I realized that every relationship I was in never lasted and for more than a month ( Ya you heard me a month) and those relationships always ended badly, my last relationship my ex told me something that really got to me, he said you need to understand who you are, what you want and you need to be comfortable in your own skin because without you understanding yourself any relationship you are in your partner won’t understand you, I sat myself down one day and I said to myself no more treating myself this way and after that day, I can tell you I have never felt more happier in my life and in my relationship,(am going to bring little mix into this and say shout out to my ex you really quite a man you broke my heart and made me who I am) so if I can do it so can you, there is nothing stopping you but you.

7. You are not meeting new people

You don’t go out with friends, you always have excuses for every time they ask you to go out with them, you won’t find your soulmate if you sit at home you need to be out and about, meeting new people and going out with friends.

8. You are desperate

People who are desperate to get into a relationship are mostly the ones that don’t find good relationship (no offense meant ) but it is the truth, if you want to have a good relationship then you need to be patient, you need let things happen on its own, don’t force yourself into a relationship that you are not happy in just because you don’t want to be single.

9. You don’t know what you want

In everything we do in this life each and everyone of has a purpose, if you don’t know what you want in life you won’t get far, it also applies for relationships if you don’t know what you want to from a relationship then that relationship won’t work out no matter how much you try to save the relationship. So if you don’t want to remain single for a long time, I would suggest you find out what you figure out what you want before getting into any relationship.

10. You are too intimidating

You go on a date with someone and you start talking and acting in a way that your date starts to get frightened by what you are saying or doing, you will just scare your date away. Don’t for the love of God talk about something that gets you angry instead talk about something you live your hobbies for example and don’t go on a date if you don’t want to, no one is forcing you to.

11. High Expectations

Having high expectations from each and every relationship you have been can cause you to become single why? Well you always expect your partner to meet your expectations when it impossible to meet those them and you set high standard for people when you go on dates hoping to find the “perfect someone,” you need to wake up there is no perfect person in this life and you need to change the way you think because if you don’t you are going to stay single for a long time.

(23) Comments

  1. I’ve been in a relationship since I was 14. Now 20 years. I often wonder how I’d cope being single. These reasons all sound valid.

    1. Glad you liked it

  2. I can relate to a lot in the list. Probably why I am single! Opened my eyes to go out there and meet new people.

    1. Wow glad you liked it

  3. I can relate to everything you said on this list 😅 I love this post!

    1. Glad you liked it

  4. Wow this really gave me a reality slap. I’ve struggled with being single. At times I think I should be single as I fall into the tempatation of being with a guy because I need the company and I can’t be alone. And then I go between being afraid to be single because I am giving off all the signals you’ve mentioned. It’s a tough battle! But thank you for those blunt but helpful points! It’s needed lol

    1. You are so welcome, glad you liked it

  5. Definitely some very accurate points here. I’m sooo bad for falling for the “I’m too busy” trap, as I find when I actually make time to go out on dates and stuff I really enjoy myself.

    Megan // xo

    1. Glad you liked it

  6. abigailtalkabout says:

    I agree with most of these and I would say number 6 is my biggest problem, without being comfortable in your own skin you will not accept others.


  7. Very well articulated….the reasons lie within us..though in some cases being single us a concious choice an individual makes.

    1. Thanks, glad you liked it

      1. You are welcome

  8. This is a really great post and I really good way to think about things. You’re so right . When I start dating a new guy and he begins to talk about his ex I immediately start questioning if I should deal with him. A person that brings up thier ex all the time is clearly stuck or not over the situation. I know my problem is that I am too independent. I know as a woman that can make a man feel like he is not important or not a man. I’m also always busy super wrapped up in my success, so I don’t last long in situations at all. Sometimes I am okay with being single because I’m always busy but sometimes I do feel like I want affection. This is something to think about. However I don’t really know what I want .

    1. Thanks, glad you liked it. I would advice that you take your time and also create time for yourself to go on a date and whenever you go on a date try to listen to your date

  9. Dang I had a reality check quick! My problem definitely are 5-7. I’m going to work on being confident in my skin, more social in public and learn how to depend on others and stop trying to do everything by myself.

    Natonya |

    1. Glad you liked it

  10. ruthinrevolt says:

    I’m not single myself, but some of these definitely ring true for other people in my life who are! Love this. 👏

    1. Thanks, glad you liked it

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